My leap of faith!

My leap of faith!
Changes aren’t always without difficulties. I have had many changes in my lives. A lot of them turned out to be good, but some turned out to be wrong. I moved from one to another country and all I hear people saying is ” Wow, you moved a lot of times” or ” Are you moving again?”.
I can be so surprised sometimes when people reacts on me with indignity. If it was me, instead of reacting as if I heard a crazy plan, I would encourage that person. Because I think when one has come that far to take a decision that will change ones life for sure, that person deserves some respect!  People who dare to face the unknown even if it scares them off, are the most successful. People dont’ realize that but it really is. Because they have a strong will to follow their heart and even if it may take long before they finally reach what they aimed for, they will reach it. Why? Because their heart’s will, their hearts desire is tied to a very strong emotion that no one else understands but themselves. Some things are just to difficult to explain sometimes.

So, shouldn’t we encourage people to pursue their dreams, of course as long as it’s something realistic?  But that’s just the thing. There are people among us that doesn’t believe enough to know that there’s more than only what they see.  They’re just surprised that I don’t stay in my comfort zone and if I allow it, it feels like entering the court and replying on all the “why’s. And that’s exactly why I gave up explaining people everything I do in my life.

Once someone told me, I better write it like this: Someone remembered me (because I think this person assumed that I forgot) that I’ve failed in the past and that I could fail again.  The moments that I failed, I see them as learning points and some of those I even see them as moments when I had to ” gamble”  to survive. We cannot look in the future, so there’s for sure some uncertainty. But, if you dare to take a step in your life to make those changes you want, there’s a big chance that the uncertainty turns out to be the life you really wants filled with joy. And you’ll look back and think that it wasn’t as scary at all as you thought. Am I scared? No I’m not.

As for this comfort zone, just because one has this job that pays good, but even being unhappy, one stay? Is that money really more important than getting to where one really want to be? I think it’s fear that keep people trapped in their comfort zone, fear created by themselves.
And by the way, why do people call that their comfort zone? For me it’s not at all. I call it prison! And that’s just why I’m not afraid of the unknown. I want to be free, always! To live my life with a mission, to laugh, to love, to be loved, to have fun with my loved ones, at any place and anywhere. We live only once and that’s exactly why I think that one should really do what one wishes to do in ones life.

If you trust your heart and believe, you can make any changes. I survived every moment I took changes. And I am thankful for every moment that made my soul an experience richer. The people that really love me, never let me down. And that, I thank God for having those wonderful people in my life. I couldn’t wish better.

So, here I come again. Taking the leap and this time with everything I have: Faith that God will be here to help me and believe that the life that’s waiting for me is not a dream but real.

*** “Faith is taking the first step, even when you don’t see the staircase”. ***

Martin Luther King

I dedicate this post to my little brother who just moved to one of those beautiful places in Spain. After many years of hard work, studying in many different directions searching for his passion, he finally got his degree for something he found out he always loved to do: cooking! I’m very proud of him.

I carry your heart with me.

You have my heart . jpg

This morning I wrote a poem for my Mom because I wanted to give her something today, something special, words, on this day that she’ll bring her Beloved brother and my Dearest Uncle to his last resting place.
When I started writing I remembered a few words from a few poems I read yesterday, just like my Uncle would say, that his heart is ours. I decided to use those words ’cause that’s what I wanted her to remember about him.

I know it’s part of life. I know it is, everybody knows that! But still, everytime we lose a loved one, every time we see someone we love in sorrow, it hurts.
But we need to remember that we’re never alone. Our loved ones that left us, are in our hearts, they are at our side. We need to accept that God wants it to be that way.

Forgive me that my post has a lot of sadness in it this time, I hope you see the positive part of it and thank you very much for reading.

 

The less you expect, the less disappointed you’ll be.

The less you expect, the less disappointed  you will be

Usually when we give away kindness, we get it back. The reason why we for example smile to other people is because it feels good and it even makes others happy. But it should only be done without any expectations. If someone doesn’t smile back to us we shouldn’t be disappointed. In this beautiful world unfortunately we don’t only have people with good hearts. I’m not saying that someone who doesn’t treat us with respect is a bad person. There are among us lots of people that don’t even realize they sometimes hurt us just because they talk or act without using their mind. Some of them are good people, they just haven’t had the opportunity to learn to take others opinion into consideration. Others are not being honest and they abuse our trust, but for us it’s to remain honest and knowing that we did good. That empowers us to stay the good persons we are. Knowing that, makes us strong and gives us back that smile on our faces that we tend to lose sometimes.

Of course it’s impossible to say that one will never ever be disappointed if one starts expecting less. There are moments that we’ll be disappointed anyway. Unfortunately those moments do exist. 
I lost my best friend many years ago. After she passed away, during the first years, I didn`t know how to deal with the fact that I had the idea that God let her and me down. I really expected her to get better and she herself was also convinced it would happen. But suddenly she was gone! It took a long time before I understood that I shouldn’t have blamed God. I was so convinced and I prayed and begged but also expected that He would make sure she would get better. She didn’t, so I felt this deep disappointment. It would have been wiser if I would have been more realistic and prepared myself for the possibility of the big disappointment I could encounter. 
But on the other hand, a few years ago I almost lost my Mom and all I did was hoping and asking Him for help. No expectations at all, just gratefulness for the moments spent together with her, and what was the result? She got better! So you see, one can get happiness also without having any expectations, but by being positive, very positive! Positivism brings happiness in our lives. 
As long as we live we have to enjoy our lives and we shouldn`t focus on bad things and people that let us down or disappoints us. 
Within the years I learned a lot, I felt many times, stood up again and started expecting less from people. After my best friend passed away I was giving a lot of trust to some of my other friends and doing everything they wished me to do even if I didn’t really like it. Seeing others satisfied made me also happy, at least, that’s what I thought at that time.
I wasn’t complaining about anything, in fact, I was accepting everything! If I would give an idea and it would be ignored, I wouldn’t start a discussing ’cause I wouldn’t wanted ruin the good ambiance and as I was learned to be thankful with what I have, I was able to accept fast. I was living up their expectations. But, in the meanwhile in my heart I wished sometimes that the day would come for them to give me an act of kindness back. Then, one day I realized I was wishing for something that can not be and that I could never be really happy if I kept thinking and hoping for people to treat me the same way as I was treating them. Probably I was expecting my closest friends unconsciously to be like my best friend, which was impossible! At that point I opened my eyes. I was lucky to have known this special person that looked like me, thought the same way I did and loved things I loved. But not everybody is the same. So, from that moment on I stopped expecting unrealistic things to happen and I started seeing the differences in people and learned that everybody is different. Choosing for myself was the biggest and the toughest change. No expectations but only honesty and facing that suddenly the same people couldn`t bear that I was being the real me. So I lost many people around me, but real ones stayed. One is fairer than another, one kinder than another, some living in their own world without “giving something back when they always get from others” in a natural way but I choose to see the good in them and not to expect too much and that made my life easier and nicer.
Once in a while when you forget not to expect too much and when this thing in life called disappointment reaches you and you get off track, react on time and see it as another lesson learned. A little scar might be left behind, but consider that scar as a proof of what you’ve learned. 
Nowadays, the area where I encounter disappointments frequently is respect. I’ll never understand why it’s difficult for some people to naturally respect their fellows, but I have accepted that it’s part of life. Since I started expecting less, I noticed I get more positive surprises coming my way.  
Precisely at moments you don’t expect anything, joy and success comes easily. They won’t only make you happy but also stronger and they’ll make you understand things better and see the value of things and people in life.
 
Quote by Bruce Lee

Give love everyday!

Give Love Everyday
There are so many ways of spreading love and happiness to our loved ones. While I’m writing this post, I see that there are only a few minutes left and then we’ll have to wait for another year for this day called Valentine’s Day to come again. 

Thinking back of the messages and calls I got today, from which some really surprised me, I got the affirmation that I need to admit that there is something very special about this day. 
Today during a conversation regarding Valentine’s Day, I mentioned like I always do “I think that everyday should be Valentine’s day. So why would I wish a special day to be there if every day can be special?” I think I got punished because during the day I got overwhelmed with wonderful messages, more than I was used to get. My busy aunt from Italy sent me this beautiful card and special message and later on after we talked to each other, I only felt more blessed to have her as my aunt. My brother in Spain also knew a good way to surprise me…and so on. 
  
The good thing about love is that it has this “bounce back” effect, so you’ll get love back in return. If it’s not meant to be, then of course it won’t work but then it’s not real love and this post is about real love.  
A hug, a few words of love, remembering the first kiss, those kind of things can fill one’s heart with so much love, that it will last longer than you could imagine. 
So, my conclusion is that on Valentine’s Day, lots of extra love have been shared! And after this special day is gone, love will still be spread every other day as if it’s everyday Valentine’s day. :)

 

Distant lovers

Nadyess:

No matter how long the distance and how short the time, real love will be always bridged. And real love never fades away, but distance does. Every time over and over again. :) I liked this post from Micheal D. Gatson so much that I wanted to share it
on my blog.

Originally posted on Michael D. Gatson:

Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough…

Sure, there’s the loneliness, coming home to an empty house, the longing, travel expenses. Love is the acceptance of imperfection as part of what you love. Real love moves freely in both directions. Don’t waste your time on anything else . Happy Valentines Day! ~Michael D. Gatson

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Be thankful for today and everyday.

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Last weekend I had a wonderful time with my family. When I got back home on Sunday, I simply started thinking about all the things I was thankful for. I don’t post much on Facebook, but this time I really I wanted to share this thought of appreciation with everybody I know on there. So, I placed a few words of appreciation on my mom’s FB wall. I did that because I wanted her to know that (even though I’m quite sure she already knows) thanks to her I’m enriched with the feeling of gratefulness and a thankful heart.
My mom has gone through so many illnesses, operations from which we really lost the count, medical errors which costed her a few times almost her life, but she keeps smiling every day. I think every smile of her makes me every day stronger and give us more and more to be thankful for. She always tells us to be thankful ’cause at least she didn’t “leave” us. And she’s totally right!
 
Be thankful for all the moments you are given to spent with your family, your friends and everyone that’s special to you. For me spending time with my loved ones is like breathing air. I couldn’t live without them. So each time we meet again, each time we hear each other voices and each time I receive a message from them I thank God for giving me another day, another opportunity to share and enjoy life with people who really treasure me. In one day there’s so much to be thankful for. I stated a just few things to be thankful for, otherwise this might become a long never ending story. I wish you all a wonderful weekend. Enjoy all the blessings you have in your lives and all the things you have to be thankful for.

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I’m thankful for all the things that make me happy in my life. 
For my family and friends.
I’m thankful for having a Job with lovely colleagues.
I’m thankful for the people that never left me and accept me for who I am. 
For being able to smile at little things around me.
For having millions of beautiful memories inside me.
I’m thankful to have the ability to eliminate negative feelings and moving on.
And I’m very thankful to be in good health.
I’m thankful for today, cause everyday there’s a today to be thankful for. 
I’m thankful to have a place to share my thoughts. This place is called WordPress. :)
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The Sunshine Award.

A few weeks ago I was nominated by Don from  doncharisma for my first Sunshine Award. Thank you very much Don for nominating me! If you haven’t visited Don’s blog yet, you should. I’m sure you’ll love it! :) Don is a kind, helpful and encouraging person. 

sunshine-award-sunflower3Another sunny thanks to Don for being such a great and awesome blogger. I understood that the Sunshine Award is especially for bloggers to get to know each other and for those who bring sunshine and inspire others in the blogging world. 


Rules to accept the Award;

-Announce in a post that you received the Award and display the Award icon in your post.
-Thank the blogger who nominated you.
-Write 10 interesting things about yourself.
-Nominate 10 great and inspirable bloggers to receive the Award.
-Link your nominees and let them know they have been awarded.


Ten interesting things about me;

1. Love travelling.
2. Cooking is one of my biggest passions. Might be because my Grandma teached me how to respect and enjoy food. And besides, cooking with my own hands feels like creating something special of my own.
3. I see the nomination of an award as a way to show appreciation to someone who has inspired me with words created by themselves.
4. I’ve always loved the French language so I’m glad I finally dared last Summer to start following French classes.
5. Vacation? I could go right now! ;) Where? Preferably on a small island in the Caribbean known by many people as Diver’s Paradise.
6. Spending quality time with my family is one of the most important things in my life.
7. I’m proud and very thankful to have a 17 years old son. Sometimes I wonder how come he’s smarter than his mom. ;)
8. I love sunsets. And I love to see when the sky changes into different beautiful colours.
9. I still have the movie ” The Dallas Buyers Club” on my list “still to watch”.
10.  I love roses. They are beautiful and I find them romantic. I think it’s clear now why I named my blog Words and Roses. ;)

I wish I could nominate everyone ’cause I consider you all as wonderful bloggers. But, this doesn’t take away that you all are special to me!
If your blog doesn’t accept Awards I apologize. Also if some of you may have received The Sunshine Award already, for that my apologies. 

My nominations include food lovers, readers, poets, mothers, fathers and also students. Here they are;
1. Wendy at share with us @ clouds n cups.
2. Clarissa at http://dishingitoutwithclarissa.com/.
3. Shivendra at  Da Write Chick.
4. Charles at ItyCharles.
5. Ajaytao at Ajaytao 2010.
6. Shannon at Doodles Invigorate
7. David at David Emeron.
8. Keli at kelihasablog
9. Afsheen at afsheenanjum
10. Alissa at great2escape

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Wake up and see the beautiful truth.

Don't see only what you're wishing for
Imagination is healthy and good for our minds because it makes us strong and gives us the ability to create something nice out of our lives. Of course, as long as we don`t get lost into our ideas and thoughts we have and start believing we could influence the reality with our imaginations. An example of a good and powerful imagination is when you remember a happy moment with someone you love, you feel the happiness entering your body and empowering your mind and feeling your heart filling itself with joy and love.

Ones mind can be so creative that when one doesn’t notice, or I better say, when someone doesn`t want to wake up and face truth, they wander easy from reality into imaginations created out of their desires. And this might result into not being able to handle with the reality.

It’s impossible that only by imagining, to believe that you can achieve what you’ve been wishing for. Someone in a very unhappy marriage might keep saying many times “this time it’s for real that we will be happy again”, instead of taking real actions to accomplish what they truly desire which is to be happy together. They deluded themselves so many times that they are going to be happy for real, that in the meanwhile it became true to them, while it’s not! Because deep in their heart they know they are not happy, but that’s just the reason why they prefer to stay in Dreamland. 

And it’s a pity because they already took the first step toward their happiness. They just don`t know that yet. They used their imagination which is very good because that’s how we start with acting! Now what needs to be done is to dare and act and that’s when our wishes lead us to the next step called reality.

Thank you for reading this post I dedicated to a very special friend who really deserves to find true happiness.  

 ***” You cannot depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.”***

***Quote by Mark Twain.***

The Beauty of Blogging.

The Beauty of Blogging
I’m glad I’m back blogging and I’ll do my best not to “hide” again for a long time. There were various reasons why I couldn’t be blogging constantly, but I’ll spare you the details ’cause I want to stick on the topic I’m writing about. But, I will share one of the reasons ’cause it will bring me anyway to where I want to go with my story. 
 
My laptop broke down and I felt like I was in the stone age so I tried using my I-Phone more instead of using it only for text messages, calling and making pictures. But unfortunately I couldn`t manage to become good friends with it, so I made a wish list and waited till Santa came in town and I was lucky ’cause just before he left he fulfilled my wish and I said goodbye to the stone age. 
But before I got my gift I visited many stores looking and comparing some notebooks and wondering which one I would receive if I was lucky. ;) There was one store where I ended up in a conversation telling the vendor why I needed a laptop so bad. One of the reasons was the blogging. And so I felt like a storyteller ’cause he was very interested in the blogging story. He told me I sounded like a passionate blogger and I was flattered by his remark. I said: ” Blogging is not just surfing on internet. Each blogger is a human being and it feels like you’ve always know each other. Maybe it’s because you have the same passion.”
 
Then suddenly this man who was standing and listening to us asked me” How can you say you love blogging and have a connection with other bloggers you don’t even know.” 
His words: ” How can someone that has never seen you in real life, that’s not even a part of your daily life touches you or respects you. How can strangers on a blog site touch your heart with theirs words and stories more than someone you know in real life? Strangers can be kind but they can never touch your heart. ” 
 
My first words that came out was: ” I never see them as strangers. That feeling doesn`t even come up into my mind. At this moment you are a real stranger to me, while you’re standing here in front of me.” He said. ” Only real friends can touch your heart. And besides .. you might keep hanging in those words and by the way ..it’s just a blog.. with words you must be very clever if you can touch someone with your words. “
Wow, you might be surprised but it felt like it was a test to define my limits. If you know J.D. from the medical comedy t.v. serie Scrubs, you’ll understand exactly how I felt. I saw myself pulling out his hair and then walking away. But instead I took a deep breath and wished I could explain to this person what the blogging is really about. 
 
First I wanted to convince him that he might find something interesting if he would try it out. Whether if it’s something to laugh about, or something inspirable or an educative topic, there’s always something nice and something meaningful to read about in the world of blogging. The one better than another, but each one in their own way! But I ignored him and continued my conversation with the vendor. 
  
What I’ve experienced during that conversation was that not everybody is positive about the blogging. In other conversations people I know and even friends do like it, but they always say they don’t have time to blog. And when I mention that with a full time job, being a single mom that also workout 3 to 4 times a week at the gym, following a language course once a week at night and travelling regularly to visit friends and families in the weekend, I have never said I don’t have time for the blogging. And then…. Silence is all I hear. 
It would be easy to say that I don’t have time to blog, but I won’t, ’cause since I started doing it I love blogging and I really am glad I once discovered the World of Blogging. Of course, I have to admit that I won’t always be able to do it on a frequently bases, but it’s not the quantity that matters but the quality. I might make mistakes, but I learn from them and try becoming better the next time. 
Every time I post something, I share a piece of me and I am very thankful to all the bloggers that are interested in my posts. I’m happy I can be part of this world called blogging where there are so many beautiful people, from all kind of fields that are being themselves, sharing beautiful, strong, educative, funny, inspirational and healthy stories, poems and topics.
At this point I can’t imagine being without my blogger friends because they are very special to me. So I want you to know, when you don’t hear anything from me, I’m missing you for sure! And that’s what I call the beauty of blogging! 

Don’t let doubt take away your happiness.

Don't let doubt get the chance to make you unhappy

I wrote this post a while ago but for one reason or another, every time I saw it, I felt uncomfortable. I wanted to share my story, but I kept postponing it every time. Today I finally did, and there’s a reason why I finally could. 
This occurrence, I expected that with writing it “off” me I would feel better, that I would get rid of this incomprehension and be freed from it. The truth? I didn`t feel relieved at all after writing! Normally it always works, but this time it didn’t!  If it`s inside it won`t get out as long as you don`t do something with it, especially when it concerns someone you really love and respect for a long time. I must have forgotten about that part. Normally letting go of something relieves me and frees me but this time something was different. 
 
I never knew that doubt could bring so much pain and lots of sadness into wonderful friendships. 
When people see things that aren’t there, try to convince them and at the same time try not to go along with their negativity, especially when it concerns people you love very much and care for very much. It “guzzles” all your positive energy before you even realize that, especially when you forget about yourself. It’s like being poisoned or having your beautiful moments being stolen from you and leaving only sadness and fear behind. 
 
The day I felt better was the day I finally got a message from my friend telling me she really misses me a lot. I was glad that the feeling I had telling me to forgive her and not letting her go, was stronger than the feeling telling me to forget about her. I got the chance to face my friend and threw out what I had inside my heart contaminating my good thoughts. As strong as the respect and love I had for my friend was, as strong was the pain. It’s impossible to be prepared for the unexpected. After that day I felt free and happy again. We both did. Forgiveness was the key to my relieve.  My friend regretted she ever doubted on me and I got remembered that forgiving can free you from the bad. 
 
It`s hard to know that someone special, would doubt on anything a good friend has done and said before to that person. Sometimes people decide not to trust others in their lives. I think than they shouldn`t get too close to people in their lives `cause eventually they will be the ones hurting people that really care about them. 
And why do this? Why create pain and sadness. Why invent things that aren’t there? Why not just face the reality and enjoy the moments together and enjoy life? What do they reach by letting their minds imagine things that are not there? Especially when there`s a lot of respect, when someone only wishes the best for one another and enjoy happy moments they are given together. Afterwards they realize that they also got hurt by their own actions and sometimes it might be too late. And is it worth it? Not at all! 
 
Be careful with words you use and how you use them: Think before you speak! You could break ones heart if you don`t use your words wise. If you doubt on anything, be honest to others and communicate in a good way to avoid misunderstandings. Do this as soon as you doubt on something. Misunderstanding can brake wonderful things and bring sadness in ones life. And what will you gain at the end? Nothing! You`ll loose love, happiness, you`ll loose joy, respect and you`ll create pain and sorrow instead, while it wasn`t at all what you intended to do. 
 
Close the door of doubt foreverEnjoy all the beautiful things and wonderful people around you and don`t let negativity take control of you. People around you don`t deserve to get hurt and neither do you. 
Believe in the smile you get from people around you. Remember and trust in the words they ever spoke to you. Don`t imagine a scenario that feels dark and uncomfortable when you can`t hear or understand what people say. The pain one gets when being hurt by someone they really respect and love is so intense, so sad and very painful.  
No one allows people in their heart to be hurt and ending up in a situation where one has to explain the nonexistence, is unhealthy. So, don’t give doubt the chance to make you unhappy. Now you understand why I couldn’t post this before. This was a story that had to end with two happy hearts. I see it as a proof that you can over win your doubts as long as you keep believing.