Don’t let doubt take away your happiness.

Don't let doubt get the chance to make you unhappy

I wrote this post a while ago but for one reason or another, every time I saw it, I felt uncomfortable. I wanted to share my story, but I kept postponing it every time. Today I finally did, and there’s a reason why I finally could. 
This occurrence, I expected that with writing it “off” me I would feel better, that I would get rid of this incomprehension and be freed from it. The truth? I didn`t feel relieved at all after writing! Normally it always works, but this time it didn’t!  If it`s inside it won`t get out as long as you don`t do something with it, especially when it concerns someone you really love and respect for a long time. I must have forgotten about that part. Normally letting go of something relieves me and frees me but this time something was different. 
I never knew that doubt could bring so much pain and lots of sadness into wonderful friendships. 
When people see things that aren’t there, try to convince them and at the same time try not to go along with their negativity, especially when it concerns people you love very much and care for very much. It “guzzles” all your positive energy before you even realize that, especially when you forget about yourself. It’s like being poisoned or having your beautiful moments being stolen from you and leaving only sadness and fear behind. 
The day I felt better was the day I finally got a message from my friend telling me she really misses me a lot. I was glad that the feeling I had telling me to forgive her and not letting her go, was stronger than the feeling telling me to forget about her. I got the chance to face my friend and threw out what I had inside my heart contaminating my good thoughts. As strong as the respect and love I had for my friend was, as strong was the pain. It’s impossible to be prepared for the unexpected. After that day I felt free and happy again. We both did. Forgiveness was the key to my relieve.  My friend regretted she ever doubted on me and I got remembered that forgiving can free you from the bad. 
It`s hard to know that someone special, would doubt on anything a good friend has done and said before to that person. Sometimes people decide not to trust others in their lives. I think than they shouldn`t get too close to people in their lives `cause eventually they will be the ones hurting people that really care about them. 
And why do this? Why create pain and sadness. Why invent things that aren’t there? Why not just face the reality and enjoy the moments together and enjoy life? What do they reach by letting their minds imagine things that are not there? Especially when there`s a lot of respect, when someone only wishes the best for one another and enjoy happy moments they are given together. Afterwards they realize that they also got hurt by their own actions and sometimes it might be too late. And is it worth it? Not at all! 
Be careful with words you use and how you use them: Think before you speak! You could break ones heart if you don`t use your words wise. If you doubt on anything, be honest to others and communicate in a good way to avoid misunderstandings. Do this as soon as you doubt on something. Misunderstanding can brake wonderful things and bring sadness in ones life. And what will you gain at the end? Nothing! You`ll loose love, happiness, you`ll loose joy, respect and you`ll create pain and sorrow instead, while it wasn`t at all what you intended to do. 
Close the door of doubt foreverEnjoy all the beautiful things and wonderful people around you and don`t let negativity take control of you. People around you don`t deserve to get hurt and neither do you. 
Believe in the smile you get from people around you. Remember and trust in the words they ever spoke to you. Don`t imagine a scenario that feels dark and uncomfortable when you can`t hear or understand what people say. The pain one gets when being hurt by someone they really respect and love is so intense, so sad and very painful.  
No one allows people in their heart to be hurt and ending up in a situation where one has to explain the nonexistence, is unhealthy. So, don’t give doubt the chance to make you unhappy. Now you understand why I couldn’t post this before. This was a story that had to end with two happy hearts. I see it as a proof that you can over win your doubts as long as you keep believing.

25 thoughts on “Don’t let doubt take away your happiness.

  1. I really enjoyed reading this post because I felt it was very heartfelt and personal… It is the hardest when people close to you hurt you, but am glad your story ended on a good note. But I just wanna say to you: keep being the good and loving person that you are. When you’re a nice and loyal person, you don’t always get what you give, especially in friendship. But don’t let that change you because your kindness and your positive spirit is what makes you so special.

    • Hi Dudzi, How nice to hear from you again! Thank you so much for visiting and for leaving such a beautiful and warm comment. I’m glad you liked it. Looks like I don’t get your new posts in my reader ‘m ’cause I missed your last two posts. Strange.. Well, I’ll make sure I visit your blog more times to read your beautiful and inspiring posts. Hope you doing fine and wish you a wonderful week.

    • Keli, Nice to see you on my blog! I’m glad you liked it. Hope you’re doing great and hope you now have a little more extra time for yourself. Thank you so much for stopping by and I wish you a wonderful and blessed week! 🙂

      • Just had to come back by since I wasn’t able to leave much of a comment before. My computer is playing games with me, but seems like my hubby convinced it to behave.I just wanted to add… You’re so right. You can’t let Doubt eat you up… You always have such wise, yet gentle posts. 😀

    • I’m glad you like Shivendra or if you prefer.. Da Write Chick! 😉
      I’m grateful for your visit and for you reading my post. By the way…I love reading your posts.. love the way you write. 🙂 I’ll go back soon to read some more. Have a wonderful and blessed week!

  2. It is always good to voice it out (in an appropriate manner) whenever we have doubts, especially over our loved ones…for the more doubts we keep inside our heart, the harder it is for us to see the picture clearly…

    Thank you for sharing, my friend!

    Take care, be well and happy always, cheers~ 😀

    • Wow!! This is really a big surprise for me! I haven’t been blogging lately for many reasons, but I have to say that I really miss it. The writing, all those beautiful people like you… And seeing your message makes that feeling even stronger! I am so flattered! Thank you so much for nominating me and following my blog my friend! The biggest and the worst reason I can’t blog is because of my laptop letting me down and my I-phone and I having a hard time becoming
      friends with each other( I’ll save you the details). But Santa is on his way.. So I’ll be back very! 🙂 Blessings to you my friend! ( p.s. I don’t manage to like your page cause the like button keep on loading all the time, sorry for that)

      • No worries, my friend! Always a pleasure to visit your lovely blog and hope to read more from you soon!!

        Have a wonderful day ahead and do take care and be well, always!! Cheers~ 😀

  3. Wonderful insights, as always I read from you. I have missed you. As I have missed your sweetly sentimental comments upon my own posts, my dear Nadyess. And Mrs. Emeron, although much more reticent than am I, has been lately asking after you. I hope you are well.

    • How nice of you David and Mrs. Emeron to think of me! I really feel honored to know you. And you know I love reading your sonnets. They are always filled with love and there’s nothing more beautiful than that! 🙂 I’ve been reading regularly but on my little I-phone screen I tend to make errors easy, but the good news is that I’m back. I’ll visit soon again and next time I’ll leave for sure a message for you. Thank you very much for visiting and leaving such a beautiful message and I wish you both a wonderful and blessed weekend! See you soon! 🙂

      • Thank you. I have enjoyed your comments and have missed them very much. I hope you are well. I read that you have been away, or at least have not been blogging quite as much. Take care.

    • That’s why every time we feel a doubt or negative thought we should “throw” it away at once, ’cause it affects our positive frame of mind.
      Thanks a lot for visiting my blog Lilly and give my greetings to Chloe. I look forward to read more about her wonderful adventures. 🙂

  4. I love this it is simply beautiful

    you seem to very passionate about everything dear
    nice to be a friend with a passionate blogger

      • I’m humbled by your compliments Ajaytao! You really made my day! 🙂 Just followed your blog ’cause you write so beautifully and I wouldn’t want to miss all that’s coming. 😉 I love the inspiring words on your blog. Have a beautiful day Ajaytao!

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