The less you expect, the less disappointed you’ll be.

The less you expect, the less disappointed  you will be

Usually when we give away kindness, we get it back. The reason why we for example smile to other people is because it feels good and it even makes others happy. But it should only be done without any expectations. If someone doesn’t smile back to us we shouldn’t be disappointed. In this beautiful world unfortunately we don’t only have people with good hearts. I’m not saying that someone who doesn’t treat us with respect is a bad person. There are among us lots of people that don’t even realize they sometimes hurt us just because they talk or act without using their mind. Some of them are good people, they just haven’t had the opportunity to learn to take others opinion into consideration. Others are not being honest and they abuse our trust, but for us it’s to remain honest and knowing that we did good. That empowers us to stay the good persons we are. Knowing that, makes us strong and gives us back that smile on our faces that we tend to lose sometimes.

Of course it’s impossible to say that one will never ever be disappointed if one starts expecting less. There are moments that we’ll be disappointed anyway. Unfortunately those moments do exist. 
I lost my best friend many years ago. After she passed away, during the first years, I didn`t know how to deal with the fact that I had the idea that God let her and me down. I really expected her to get better and she herself was also convinced it would happen. But suddenly she was gone! It took a long time before I understood that I shouldn’t have blamed God. I was so convinced and I prayed and begged but also expected that He would make sure she would get better. She didn’t, so I felt this deep disappointment. It would have been wiser if I would have been more realistic and prepared myself for the possibility of the big disappointment I could encounter. 
But on the other hand, a few years ago I almost lost my Mom and all I did was hoping and asking Him for help. No expectations at all, just gratefulness for the moments spent together with her, and what was the result? She got better! So you see, one can get happiness also without having any expectations, but by being positive, very positive! Positivism brings happiness in our lives. 
As long as we live we have to enjoy our lives and we shouldn`t focus on bad things and people that let us down or disappoints us. 
Within the years I learned a lot, I felt many times, stood up again and started expecting less from people. After my best friend passed away I was giving a lot of trust to some of my other friends and doing everything they wished me to do even if I didn’t really like it. Seeing others satisfied made me also happy, at least, that’s what I thought at that time.
I wasn’t complaining about anything, in fact, I was accepting everything! If I would give an idea and it would be ignored, I wouldn’t start a discussing ’cause I wouldn’t wanted ruin the good ambiance and as I was learned to be thankful with what I have, I was able to accept fast. I was living up their expectations. But, in the meanwhile in my heart I wished sometimes that the day would come for them to give me an act of kindness back. Then, one day I realized I was wishing for something that can not be and that I could never be really happy if I kept thinking and hoping for people to treat me the same way as I was treating them. Probably I was expecting my closest friends unconsciously to be like my best friend, which was impossible! At that point I opened my eyes. I was lucky to have known this special person that looked like me, thought the same way I did and loved things I loved. But not everybody is the same. So, from that moment on I stopped expecting unrealistic things to happen and I started seeing the differences in people and learned that everybody is different. Choosing for myself was the biggest and the toughest change. No expectations but only honesty and facing that suddenly the same people couldn`t bear that I was being the real me. So I lost many people around me, but real ones stayed. One is fairer than another, one kinder than another, some living in their own world without “giving something back when they always get from others” in a natural way but I choose to see the good in them and not to expect too much and that made my life easier and nicer.
Once in a while when you forget not to expect too much and when this thing in life called disappointment reaches you and you get off track, react on time and see it as another lesson learned. A little scar might be left behind, but consider that scar as a proof of what you’ve learned. 
Nowadays, the area where I encounter disappointments frequently is respect. I’ll never understand why it’s difficult for some people to naturally respect their fellows, but I have accepted that it’s part of life. Since I started expecting less, I noticed I get more positive surprises coming my way.  
Precisely at moments you don’t expect anything, joy and success comes easily. They won’t only make you happy but also stronger and they’ll make you understand things better and see the value of things and people in life.
 
Quote by Bruce Lee

Give love everyday!

Give Love Everyday
There are so many ways of spreading love and happiness to our loved ones. While I’m writing this post, I see that there are only a few minutes left and then we’ll have to wait for another year for this day called Valentine’s Day to come again. 

Thinking back of the messages and calls I got today, from which some really surprised me, I got the affirmation that I need to admit that there is something very special about this day. 
Today during a conversation regarding Valentine’s Day, I mentioned like I always do “I think that everyday should be Valentine’s day. So why would I wish a special day to be there if every day can be special?” I think I got punished because during the day I got overwhelmed with wonderful messages, more than I was used to get. My busy aunt from Italy sent me this beautiful card and special message and later on after we talked to each other, I only felt more blessed to have her as my aunt. My brother in Spain also knew a good way to surprise me…and so on. 
  
The good thing about love is that it has this “bounce back” effect, so you’ll get love back in return. If it’s not meant to be, then of course it won’t work but then it’s not real love and this post is about real love.  
A hug, a few words of love, remembering the first kiss, those kind of things can fill one’s heart with so much love, that it will last longer than you could imagine. 
So, my conclusion is that on Valentine’s Day, lots of extra love have been shared! And after this special day is gone, love will still be spread every other day as if it’s everyday Valentine’s day. 🙂

 

Distant lovers

No matter how long the distance and how short the time, real love will be always bridged. And real love never fades away, but distance does. Every time over and over again. 🙂 I liked this post from Micheal D. Gatson so much that I wanted to share it
on my blog.

Michael D. Gatson

Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough…

Sure, there’s the loneliness, coming home to an empty house, the longing, travel expenses. Love is the acceptance of imperfection as part of what you love. Real love moves freely in both directions. Don’t waste your time on anything else . Happy Valentines Day! ~Michael D. Gatson

View original post

Be thankful for today and everyday.

WPROSE
Last weekend I had a wonderful time with my family. When I got back home on Sunday, I simply started thinking about all the things I was thankful for. I don’t post much on Facebook, but this time I really I wanted to share this thought of appreciation with everybody I know on there. So, I placed a few words of appreciation on my mom’s FB wall. I did that because I wanted her to know that (even though I’m quite sure she already knows) thanks to her I’m enriched with the feeling of gratefulness and a thankful heart.
My mom has gone through so many illnesses, operations from which we really lost the count, medical errors which costed her a few times almost her life, but she keeps smiling every day. I think every smile of her makes me every day stronger and give us more and more to be thankful for. She always tells us to be thankful ’cause at least she didn’t “leave” us. And she’s totally right!
 
Be thankful for all the moments you are given to spent with your family, your friends and everyone that’s special to you. For me spending time with my loved ones is like breathing air. I couldn’t live without them. So each time we meet again, each time we hear each other voices and each time I receive a message from them I thank God for giving me another day, another opportunity to share and enjoy life with people who really treasure me. In one day there’s so much to be thankful for. I stated a just few things to be thankful for, otherwise this might become a long never ending story. I wish you all a wonderful weekend. Enjoy all the blessings you have in your lives and all the things you have to be thankful for.

……

I’m thankful for all the things that make me happy in my life. 
For my family and friends.
I’m thankful for having a Job with lovely colleagues.
I’m thankful for the people that never left me and accept me for who I am. 
For being able to smile at little things around me.
For having millions of beautiful memories inside me.
I’m thankful to have the ability to eliminate negative feelings and moving on.
And I’m very thankful to be in good health.
I’m thankful for today, cause everyday there’s a today to be thankful for. 
I’m thankful to have a place to share my thoughts. This place is called WordPress. 🙂
……

The Sunshine Award.

A few weeks ago I was nominated by Don from  doncharisma for my first Sunshine Award. Thank you very much Don for nominating me! If you haven’t visited Don’s blog yet, you should. I’m sure you’ll love it! 🙂 Don is a kind, helpful and encouraging person. 

sunshine-award-sunflower3Another sunny thanks to Don for being such a great and awesome blogger. I understood that the Sunshine Award is especially for bloggers to get to know each other and for those who bring sunshine and inspire others in the blogging world. 


Rules to accept the Award;

-Announce in a post that you received the Award and display the Award icon in your post.
-Thank the blogger who nominated you.
-Write 10 interesting things about yourself.
-Nominate 10 great and inspirable bloggers to receive the Award.
-Link your nominees and let them know they have been awarded.


Ten interesting things about me;

1. Love travelling.
2. Cooking is one of my biggest passions. Might be because my Grandma teached me how to respect and enjoy food. And besides, cooking with my own hands feels like creating something special of my own.
3. I see the nomination of an award as a way to show appreciation to someone who has inspired me with words created by themselves.
4. I’ve always loved the French language so I’m glad I finally dared last Summer to start following French classes.
5. Vacation? I could go right now! 😉 Where? Preferably on a small island in the Caribbean known by many people as Diver’s Paradise.
6. Spending quality time with my family is one of the most important things in my life.
7. I’m proud and very thankful to have a 17 years old son. Sometimes I wonder how come he’s smarter than his mom. 😉
8. I love sunsets. And I love to see when the sky changes into different beautiful colours.
9. I still have the movie ” The Dallas Buyers Club” on my list “still to watch”.
10.  I love roses. They are beautiful and I find them romantic. I think it’s clear now why I named my blog Words and Roses. 😉

I wish I could nominate everyone ’cause I consider you all as wonderful bloggers. But, this doesn’t take away that you all are special to me!
If your blog doesn’t accept Awards I apologize. Also if some of you may have received The Sunshine Award already, for that my apologies. 

My nominations include food lovers, readers, poets, mothers, fathers and also students. Here they are;
1. Wendy at share with us @ clouds n cups.
2. Clarissa at http://dishingitoutwithclarissa.com/.
3. Shivendra at  Da Write Chick.
4. Charles at ItyCharles.
5. Ajaytao at Ajaytao 2010.
6. Shannon at Doodles Invigorate
7. David at David Emeron.
8. Keli at kelihasablog
9. Afsheen at afsheenanjum
10. Alissa at great2escape

Little gestures