Do you have the ingredients for a happy life?

Ingredients for a good life

If you’re missing an important ingredient to live a fulfilling life, pick that one and make the most of it. If you can’t pick just one, then take all the ones you need. They are all good reasons to live a wonderful and good life.
Important is that first you accept yourself the way you are, because you’re the recipe for the ingredients. And together you are life, the happy life you want to live.
Ingredients for a good life

Don’t let doubt take away your happiness.

Don't let doubt get the chance to make you unhappy

I wrote this post a while ago but for one reason or another, every time I saw it, I felt uncomfortable. I wanted to share my story, but I kept postponing it every time. Today I finally did, and there’s a reason why I finally could. 
This occurrence, I expected that with writing it “off” me I would feel better, that I would get rid of this incomprehension and be freed from it. The truth? I didn`t feel relieved at all after writing! Normally it always works, but this time it didn’t!  If it`s inside it won`t get out as long as you don`t do something with it, especially when it concerns someone you really love and respect for a long time. I must have forgotten about that part. Normally letting go of something relieves me and frees me but this time something was different. 
I never knew that doubt could bring so much pain and lots of sadness into wonderful friendships. 
When people see things that aren’t there, try to convince them and at the same time try not to go along with their negativity, especially when it concerns people you love very much and care for very much. It “guzzles” all your positive energy before you even realize that, especially when you forget about yourself. It’s like being poisoned or having your beautiful moments being stolen from you and leaving only sadness and fear behind. 
The day I felt better was the day I finally got a message from my friend telling me she really misses me a lot. I was glad that the feeling I had telling me to forgive her and not letting her go, was stronger than the feeling telling me to forget about her. I got the chance to face my friend and threw out what I had inside my heart contaminating my good thoughts. As strong as the respect and love I had for my friend was, as strong was the pain. It’s impossible to be prepared for the unexpected. After that day I felt free and happy again. We both did. Forgiveness was the key to my relieve.  My friend regretted she ever doubted on me and I got remembered that forgiving can free you from the bad. 
It`s hard to know that someone special, would doubt on anything a good friend has done and said before to that person. Sometimes people decide not to trust others in their lives. I think than they shouldn`t get too close to people in their lives `cause eventually they will be the ones hurting people that really care about them. 
And why do this? Why create pain and sadness. Why invent things that aren’t there? Why not just face the reality and enjoy the moments together and enjoy life? What do they reach by letting their minds imagine things that are not there? Especially when there`s a lot of respect, when someone only wishes the best for one another and enjoy happy moments they are given together. Afterwards they realize that they also got hurt by their own actions and sometimes it might be too late. And is it worth it? Not at all! 
Be careful with words you use and how you use them: Think before you speak! You could break ones heart if you don`t use your words wise. If you doubt on anything, be honest to others and communicate in a good way to avoid misunderstandings. Do this as soon as you doubt on something. Misunderstanding can brake wonderful things and bring sadness in ones life. And what will you gain at the end? Nothing! You`ll loose love, happiness, you`ll loose joy, respect and you`ll create pain and sorrow instead, while it wasn`t at all what you intended to do. 
Close the door of doubt foreverEnjoy all the beautiful things and wonderful people around you and don`t let negativity take control of you. People around you don`t deserve to get hurt and neither do you. 
Believe in the smile you get from people around you. Remember and trust in the words they ever spoke to you. Don`t imagine a scenario that feels dark and uncomfortable when you can`t hear or understand what people say. The pain one gets when being hurt by someone they really respect and love is so intense, so sad and very painful.  
No one allows people in their heart to be hurt and ending up in a situation where one has to explain the nonexistence, is unhealthy. So, don’t give doubt the chance to make you unhappy. Now you understand why I couldn’t post this before. This was a story that had to end with two happy hearts. I see it as a proof that you can over win your doubts as long as you keep believing.

Forgive and you`ll be free.


Sometimes people make mistakes and hurt each other, most of the times without any explanation. Can we forgive those people and go one like nothing never happened? 

During my childhood I learned from my grandmother that I should always forgive people. When I think back I wonder why I never saw my Grandma angry. I still feel the energy flowing through my body as if she`s there with me and for me. And yes, I was lucky that she was a lot of times there for me. She was like an angel, she would come and save me from everything that would be harmful for me. She spoke a lot about forgiveness, most of the time when she couldn`t be there to protect me. She would say many times that I should always forgive my enemies when I would tell her that I was hurt by someone and therefor sad and angry. My Grandmother was always praying. Sometimes I could hear the words she was whispering. I could hear that she was asking God for forgiveness. I was confused because she was a good person, she would never hurt anybody, she wouldn`t talk bad about anybody, she would never interfere in ones business. So is it really necessary to ask for forgiveness when you`re a good person?

When someone did hurt me in the past, I preferred not to think about what my grandmother used to tell me, `cause I only wished for her not to see me sad or angry. I always hoped on moments like those that she would be busy watching over another grandchild while this one was being stubborn and not doing what was told the best to do: To forgive, feel free, happy and move on! But then the moment came when I decided to follow up her wise advice and forgive people around me. Her words worked, because I happen to be someone that can`t really carry a lot of unforgiveness with me. I`m bad with carrying hateful thoughts. It makes me restless and disturb my inner peace  I  prefer to “forget” fast and become happy again at once.  Getting stuck with feelings of unforgiveness is a big waste of our lives. When we forgive someone it feels good, `cause we feel relieved, free and ready to continue enjoying our lives.  

There`s one thing my grandma never told me, which I learned after forgiving people and being betrayed by the same persons more than once. It`s what John F. Kennedy once said: “Forgive your enemies but never forget their names”. There she goes again, the stubborn grandchild. But there`s a point here. You know better so you won`t make the same mistake next time.