Be thankful for today and everyday.

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Last weekend I had a wonderful time with my family. When I got back home on Sunday, I simply started thinking about all the things I was thankful for. I don’t post much on Facebook, but this time I really I wanted to share this thought of appreciation with everybody I know on there. So, I placed a few words of appreciation on my mom’s FB wall. I did that because I wanted her to know that (even though I’m quite sure she already knows) thanks to her I’m enriched with the feeling of gratefulness and a thankful heart.
My mom has gone through so many illnesses, operations from which we really lost the count, medical errors which costed her a few times almost her life, but she keeps smiling every day. I think every smile of her makes me every day stronger and give us more and more to be thankful for. She always tells us to be thankful ’cause at least she didn’t “leave” us. And she’s totally right!
 
Be thankful for all the moments you are given to spent with your family, your friends and everyone that’s special to you. For me spending time with my loved ones is like breathing air. I couldn’t live without them. So each time we meet again, each time we hear each other voices and each time I receive a message from them I thank God for giving me another day, another opportunity to share and enjoy life with people who really treasure me. In one day there’s so much to be thankful for. I stated a just few things to be thankful for, otherwise this might become a long never ending story. I wish you all a wonderful weekend. Enjoy all the blessings you have in your lives and all the things you have to be thankful for.

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I’m thankful for all the things that make me happy in my life. 
For my family and friends.
I’m thankful for having a Job with lovely colleagues.
I’m thankful for the people that never left me and accept me for who I am. 
For being able to smile at little things around me.
For having millions of beautiful memories inside me.
I’m thankful to have the ability to eliminate negative feelings and moving on.
And I’m very thankful to be in good health.
I’m thankful for today, cause everyday there’s a today to be thankful for. 
I’m thankful to have a place to share my thoughts. This place is called WordPress. 🙂
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The Sunshine Award.

A few weeks ago I was nominated by Don from  doncharisma for my first Sunshine Award. Thank you very much Don for nominating me! If you haven’t visited Don’s blog yet, you should. I’m sure you’ll love it! 🙂 Don is a kind, helpful and encouraging person. 

sunshine-award-sunflower3Another sunny thanks to Don for being such a great and awesome blogger. I understood that the Sunshine Award is especially for bloggers to get to know each other and for those who bring sunshine and inspire others in the blogging world. 


Rules to accept the Award;

-Announce in a post that you received the Award and display the Award icon in your post.
-Thank the blogger who nominated you.
-Write 10 interesting things about yourself.
-Nominate 10 great and inspirable bloggers to receive the Award.
-Link your nominees and let them know they have been awarded.


Ten interesting things about me;

1. Love travelling.
2. Cooking is one of my biggest passions. Might be because my Grandma teached me how to respect and enjoy food. And besides, cooking with my own hands feels like creating something special of my own.
3. I see the nomination of an award as a way to show appreciation to someone who has inspired me with words created by themselves.
4. I’ve always loved the French language so I’m glad I finally dared last Summer to start following French classes.
5. Vacation? I could go right now! 😉 Where? Preferably on a small island in the Caribbean known by many people as Diver’s Paradise.
6. Spending quality time with my family is one of the most important things in my life.
7. I’m proud and very thankful to have a 17 years old son. Sometimes I wonder how come he’s smarter than his mom. 😉
8. I love sunsets. And I love to see when the sky changes into different beautiful colours.
9. I still have the movie ” The Dallas Buyers Club” on my list “still to watch”.
10.  I love roses. They are beautiful and I find them romantic. I think it’s clear now why I named my blog Words and Roses. 😉

I wish I could nominate everyone ’cause I consider you all as wonderful bloggers. But, this doesn’t take away that you all are special to me!
If your blog doesn’t accept Awards I apologize. Also if some of you may have received The Sunshine Award already, for that my apologies. 

My nominations include food lovers, readers, poets, mothers, fathers and also students. Here they are;
1. Wendy at share with us @ clouds n cups.
2. Clarissa at http://dishingitoutwithclarissa.com/.
3. Shivendra at  Da Write Chick.
4. Charles at ItyCharles.
5. Ajaytao at Ajaytao 2010.
6. Shannon at Doodles Invigorate
7. David at David Emeron.
8. Keli at kelihasablog
9. Afsheen at afsheenanjum
10. Alissa at great2escape

Little gestures

Wake up and see the beautiful truth.

Don't see only what you're wishing for
Imagination is healthy and good for our minds because it makes us strong and gives us the ability to create something nice out of our lives. Of course, as long as we don`t get lost into our ideas and thoughts we have and start believing we could influence the reality with our imaginations. An example of a good and powerful imagination is when you remember a happy moment with someone you love, you feel the happiness entering your body and empowering your mind and feeling your heart filling itself with joy and love.

Ones mind can be so creative that when one doesn’t notice, or I better say, when someone doesn`t want to wake up and face truth, they wander easy from reality into imaginations created out of their desires. And this might result into not being able to handle with the reality.

It’s impossible that only by imagining, to believe that you can achieve what you’ve been wishing for. Someone in a very unhappy marriage might keep saying many times “this time it’s for real that we will be happy again”, instead of taking real actions to accomplish what they truly desire which is to be happy together. They deluded themselves so many times that they are going to be happy for real, that in the meanwhile it became true to them, while it’s not! Because deep in their heart they know they are not happy, but that’s just the reason why they prefer to stay in Dreamland. 

And it’s a pity because they already took the first step toward their happiness. They just don`t know that yet. They used their imagination which is very good because that’s how we start with acting! Now what needs to be done is to dare and act and that’s when our wishes lead us to the next step called reality.

Thank you for reading this post I dedicated to a very special friend who really deserves to find true happiness.  

 ***” You cannot depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.”***

***Quote by Mark Twain.***

The Beauty of Blogging.

The Beauty of Blogging
I’m glad I’m back blogging and I’ll do my best not to “hide” again for a long time. There were various reasons why I couldn’t be blogging constantly, but I’ll spare you the details ’cause I want to stick on the topic I’m writing about. But, I will share one of the reasons ’cause it will bring me anyway to where I want to go with my story. 
 
My laptop broke down and I felt like I was in the stone age so I tried using my I-Phone more instead of using it only for text messages, calling and making pictures. But unfortunately I couldn`t manage to become good friends with it, so I made a wish list and waited till Santa came in town and I was lucky ’cause just before he left he fulfilled my wish and I said goodbye to the stone age. 
But before I got my gift I visited many stores looking and comparing some notebooks and wondering which one I would receive if I was lucky. 😉 There was one store where I ended up in a conversation telling the vendor why I needed a laptop so bad. One of the reasons was the blogging. And so I felt like a storyteller ’cause he was very interested in the blogging story. He told me I sounded like a passionate blogger and I was flattered by his remark. I said: ” Blogging is not just surfing on internet. Each blogger is a human being and it feels like you’ve always know each other. Maybe it’s because you have the same passion.”
 
Then suddenly this man who was standing and listening to us asked me” How can you say you love blogging and have a connection with other bloggers you don’t even know.” 
His words: ” How can someone that has never seen you in real life, that’s not even a part of your daily life touches you or respects you. How can strangers on a blog site touch your heart with theirs words and stories more than someone you know in real life? Strangers can be kind but they can never touch your heart. ” 
 
My first words that came out was: ” I never see them as strangers. That feeling doesn`t even come up into my mind. At this moment you are a real stranger to me, while you’re standing here in front of me.” He said. ” Only real friends can touch your heart. And besides .. you might keep hanging in those words and by the way ..it’s just a blog.. with words you must be very clever if you can touch someone with your words. “
Wow, you might be surprised but it felt like it was a test to define my limits. If you know J.D. from the medical comedy t.v. serie Scrubs, you’ll understand exactly how I felt. I saw myself pulling out his hair and then walking away. But instead I took a deep breath and wished I could explain to this person what the blogging is really about. 
 
First I wanted to convince him that he might find something interesting if he would try it out. Whether if it’s something to laugh about, or something inspirable or an educative topic, there’s always something nice and something meaningful to read about in the world of blogging. The one better than another, but each one in their own way! But I ignored him and continued my conversation with the vendor. 
  
What I’ve experienced during that conversation was that not everybody is positive about the blogging. In other conversations people I know and even friends do like it, but they always say they don’t have time to blog. And when I mention that with a full time job, being a single mom that also workout 3 to 4 times a week at the gym, following a language course once a week at night and travelling regularly to visit friends and families in the weekend, I have never said I don’t have time for the blogging. And then…. Silence is all I hear. 
It would be easy to say that I don’t have time to blog, but I won’t, ’cause since I started doing it I love blogging and I really am glad I once discovered the World of Blogging. Of course, I have to admit that I won’t always be able to do it on a frequently bases, but it’s not the quantity that matters but the quality. I might make mistakes, but I learn from them and try becoming better the next time. 
Every time I post something, I share a piece of me and I am very thankful to all the bloggers that are interested in my posts. I’m happy I can be part of this world called blogging where there are so many beautiful people, from all kind of fields that are being themselves, sharing beautiful, strong, educative, funny, inspirational and healthy stories, poems and topics.
At this point I can’t imagine being without my blogger friends because they are very special to me. So I want you to know, when you don’t hear anything from me, I’m missing you for sure! And that’s what I call the beauty of blogging! 

Don’t let doubt take away your happiness.

Don't let doubt get the chance to make you unhappy

I wrote this post a while ago but for one reason or another, every time I saw it, I felt uncomfortable. I wanted to share my story, but I kept postponing it every time. Today I finally did, and there’s a reason why I finally could. 
This occurrence, I expected that with writing it “off” me I would feel better, that I would get rid of this incomprehension and be freed from it. The truth? I didn`t feel relieved at all after writing! Normally it always works, but this time it didn’t!  If it`s inside it won`t get out as long as you don`t do something with it, especially when it concerns someone you really love and respect for a long time. I must have forgotten about that part. Normally letting go of something relieves me and frees me but this time something was different. 
 
I never knew that doubt could bring so much pain and lots of sadness into wonderful friendships. 
When people see things that aren’t there, try to convince them and at the same time try not to go along with their negativity, especially when it concerns people you love very much and care for very much. It “guzzles” all your positive energy before you even realize that, especially when you forget about yourself. It’s like being poisoned or having your beautiful moments being stolen from you and leaving only sadness and fear behind. 
 
The day I felt better was the day I finally got a message from my friend telling me she really misses me a lot. I was glad that the feeling I had telling me to forgive her and not letting her go, was stronger than the feeling telling me to forget about her. I got the chance to face my friend and threw out what I had inside my heart contaminating my good thoughts. As strong as the respect and love I had for my friend was, as strong was the pain. It’s impossible to be prepared for the unexpected. After that day I felt free and happy again. We both did. Forgiveness was the key to my relieve.  My friend regretted she ever doubted on me and I got remembered that forgiving can free you from the bad. 
 
It`s hard to know that someone special, would doubt on anything a good friend has done and said before to that person. Sometimes people decide not to trust others in their lives. I think than they shouldn`t get too close to people in their lives `cause eventually they will be the ones hurting people that really care about them. 
And why do this? Why create pain and sadness. Why invent things that aren’t there? Why not just face the reality and enjoy the moments together and enjoy life? What do they reach by letting their minds imagine things that are not there? Especially when there`s a lot of respect, when someone only wishes the best for one another and enjoy happy moments they are given together. Afterwards they realize that they also got hurt by their own actions and sometimes it might be too late. And is it worth it? Not at all! 
 
Be careful with words you use and how you use them: Think before you speak! You could break ones heart if you don`t use your words wise. If you doubt on anything, be honest to others and communicate in a good way to avoid misunderstandings. Do this as soon as you doubt on something. Misunderstanding can brake wonderful things and bring sadness in ones life. And what will you gain at the end? Nothing! You`ll loose love, happiness, you`ll loose joy, respect and you`ll create pain and sorrow instead, while it wasn`t at all what you intended to do. 
 
Close the door of doubt foreverEnjoy all the beautiful things and wonderful people around you and don`t let negativity take control of you. People around you don`t deserve to get hurt and neither do you. 
Believe in the smile you get from people around you. Remember and trust in the words they ever spoke to you. Don`t imagine a scenario that feels dark and uncomfortable when you can`t hear or understand what people say. The pain one gets when being hurt by someone they really respect and love is so intense, so sad and very painful.  
No one allows people in their heart to be hurt and ending up in a situation where one has to explain the nonexistence, is unhealthy. So, don’t give doubt the chance to make you unhappy. Now you understand why I couldn’t post this before. This was a story that had to end with two happy hearts. I see it as a proof that you can over win your doubts as long as you keep believing.

A positive attitude.

A positive attitude

On a difficult day, don`t let negativity master you, but instead, stay positive and focus on something peaceful to maintain a positive mindset on that day. Look around you and be thankful for what you have, this helps you maintain a positive spirit. Don’t stick around people that have constantly negative attitude ’cause that contaminate yours.

A good way of staying positive is reading inspiring, encouraging and positive stories. Also listening to wonderful music keeps you happy and positive. Exercising (preferably) daily is good for your mood and your health. At my workplace I have pictures of the sea, beaches, sunsets and the underwater world. All from my native island. Just looking at of those pictures put a smile one my face, make me cheerful and keep me going. 
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“Search for peace in yourself and you`ll find joy.” Joseph Campbell
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Treasure every moment you have.

Treasure every moment you have

With the years I learned how valuable time is and how important it is to cherish your moment with people you love, ’cause time really doesn`t wait and when it`s gone it`s  gone. Nowadays people have busy schedules but this shouldn`t be a reason not to find some time to get together. Being a single mom with a full time job could have also been a reason for me not to have spent much time with family and friends in the past. But there`s no better moment than enjoying time as it comes. So no matter how busy your life is, you should enjoy every moment that you can. 

For me spending time together with family and friends is my treasure and I`m grateful that God has blessed me with such wonderful people in my life.

I`ve also spent time with people from which I thought the moments spent with them was valuable. At first I saw those moments as time wasted, but than I realized it`s not worth thinking and wondering things like ‘If I only knew…’. I should spend my valuable time with people who really want to be with me and people I love to be with.

Sometimes when you`re enjoying your moments together with your loved ones, you might have some unhappy moments, but in the end everybody will be happy again and filled with nice memories.

Think with your heart.

Think with your heart
People prefer to stay in the ‘safe’ zone so they can protect themselves from getting hurt. If they only knew how beautiful it is to think with their hearts, they would wish they could reverse their life, open their heart, trust their heart and experience the peace and love they carry inside of it. 
If ones heart is closed, locked up and the key thrown away somewhere far far away, thinking with ones mind is the only thing that`s left. But still, it`s never too late to open ones heart and feel love. Everything is possible as long as you stay open to it.                                                                                                                                 
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Saying from Robert Bulwer-Lytton: “A good heart is better than all the heads in the world.” 

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And I really love this quote from Anne Frank: “Despite everything, I believe that people are really good at heart.”
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Listen to your body!

Listen to your body
I recently learned another lesson. To listen to both my body and my mind. When they say “Stop we need a brake!”, I should slow down and give them both some rest. In the last months I rarely did that. After my surgery I even started working sooner than I should have. Not good but sometimes when we have so many obligations, we forget about ourselves.

Of course my body and I have always been together so we know each other already for a long time and it`s not the first time this happens, but I think I`ve continuously asked too much from my body. Not only my mind and body learned something new about me, but also all the lovely people around me that were angry with me, or my son who told me he won`t be talking me with me for one day if I don`t listen and get some rest. They learned that I`m very stubborn and l kept having clashes on this topic until they were exhausted.

Afterwards the situation made me smile `cause I should admit that sometimes I forget how much people do care for me. 

I decided to take the brake my body needed. And where could be the best place to give my body some rest and relax? Where my roots are! I had a wonderful time and I`m back now in Europe but all I can think of is the time of relaxation over there. I learned my lesson and I realized that overworking and not resting is also a part an unhealthy life, but I got the best therapy ever! My roots opened my eyes and I`ll hold on to that for sure. 
So, when your body needs a brake, give it to him! There are many ways to do that. You just have to find the balance.
 

Give someone a smile!

Give someone a smile

Recently I underwent a surgery that finally took place after it was aborted on the initial date. Afterwards it was postponed again to another date because of emergencies and so it went on until I was done with the whole happening.
Although there was highly need for me to undergo the surgery I became exhausted by all the uncertainty about the date, the different people that treated me and all the complicated medical questions I had to answer. At one point I had no more sense to undergo the surgery, only thinking about it made me very nervous and grumpy.
So finally the big day came! As soon as I went through the door of the hospital I was received with a smile by an assistant. I felt my anxiety level dropping down. And than again another smile followed and another one… and suddenly it was all gone! I was relaxed!! I felt like a little girl in a candy store. Well, a candy story full of needles but o.k. even that I did survive on that day thanks to all those beautiful people that treated me so well. 
I felt like I got lot`s of gifts on that day. Gifts in the shape of real smiles. And whenever someone asks me about my surgical experience on that day, the biggest part of my conversation is about how friendly they were to me. 
And I`m grateful that in spite of the position I was in, I got the opportunity to feel happiness in a moment like that, thanks to the smiles I received in that clinic. 
“A little smile can really make a big difference.”