Choosing Courage.

Choosing for courage

The key to freedom is always in front of us: Courage! But sometimes we allow our fears to blind us and instead of us ruling our future and our plans, we let our fears do that. Sometimes because somewhere in the past we’ve tried before but hadn’t accomplished exactly how we wanted. Is it worth staying in a life we don’t want to, just because of the fear we have to fail or to get rejected? If we want to accomplish something in life we need to face of fears and be courageous.
To succeed with our goals we need to take risks. Courage comes out of taking action and no matter how big the risks are. If you really want to do something you love to do, but doubt it might go wrong, dare to take risks and swim through all the fears that’s overwhelming you to get on the other side where a new future is waiting for you. No one is born with fear, so we all can learn to overcome fear. 
 
“I might have a long journey ahead and it might be turbulent on the road, but my courage helps me to continue.” This is what I told myself a few days ago before I took that big decision on choosing a new direction in my career, trading assurance for the unknown. I choose for what my heart really desires, happiness, challenge, inner peace. I know there’s no assurance for the unknown and I can’t go back, but that’s o.k. ’cause I don’t want to go back. What’s done is done. I am thankful for all that I’ve learned, for all that I’ve experienced, for all the good moments but also for the less good moments. I learned from the less good moments and they helped me to be strong. Now I want to move on and reach one by one my dreams I once left aside. I have patience. I am the one to give myself the chance to shine bright again. Doing something with passion makes us happy and it leads us for sure to the greatest moments in our lives.
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“Courage is never to let your actions be influenced by your fears.”
Arthur Koestler
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Letting go is the start of a new life.

Letting go isn't the end of the World, it's the start of a new life
I have written so many interesting and wonderful stories in the past months, but couldn’t post none of them because of one topic controlling my life. How could I post something different while having this one topic influencing my mind and my life constantly? Today I finally decided to write about it and to post it without making any use of the writings I did before as they were too long and too much in details.
There comes a time when without wanting and without noticing we lose our strength. What happened with all those positive thoughts I used to have? They started fading away, like smoke.
Something I really never thought about reached me a few months ago. If I say I’m a mother of an 18 year boy the chance is very big that you know exactly what I`m referring to. Yes, The little child isn’t there no more. In fact, the big boy is even somewhere out there in big Europe discovering the world.
I needed some time to accept and to let go of my son and it didn’t take a day or a week for me to reach that point, but months.

So, was it that bad and that hard to let go? I would almost say it was, but ultimately it’s not. There is this one moment in life when we all have to “leave” and then we’ll never come back. That for sure is the hardest moment. So, My answer is that it’s really not that difficult.
In order to think like, that I first had to remember how many loved ones I lost that I’ll never see again in this world. And I had to convince myself that I could be proud of myself that I got the chance and for getting at the stage where my child got independent, grown up and ready to discover the world. There are people among us that will never get that opportunity, so I am very grateful and feel really blessed that I did get that chance.  Remember to stay positive and look at this big change in your life as a new episode starting, a new life filled with new opportunities and things to discover. I know quite a few, and I got like filled up with lots of positive energy as I discovered which one of my dreams set aside I could re-wake now. And the good news is that in the meanwhile I started working on them. I won`t share them for now. Let it be a surprise. 

In a few months my son will return and I know we won`t be spending much time together as in the past, but even if it would be just an hour, for me it will be like a fabulous treasure. Moments like those lasts longer then it does in reality. I’m thankful to God for the times I can still be with him. Just writing this makes me happy again! And strange but true…. Just after writing this post I felt l more relieved and free.

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Thank you all very much for taking your time to read out what I wrote. 🙂

My leap of faith!

My leap of faith!
Changes aren’t always without difficulties. I have had many changes in my lives. A lot of them turned out to be good, but some turned out to be wrong. I moved from one to another country and all I hear people saying is ” Wow, you moved a lot of times” or ” Are you moving again?”.
I can be so surprised sometimes when people reacts on me with indignity. If it was me, instead of reacting as if I heard a crazy plan, I would encourage that person. Because I think when one has come that far to take a decision that will change ones life for sure, that person deserves some respect!  People who dare to face the unknown even if it scares them off, are the most successful. People dont’ realize that but it really is. Because they have a strong will to follow their heart and even if it may take long before they finally reach what they aimed for, they will reach it. Why? Because their heart’s will, their hearts desire is tied to a very strong emotion that no one else understands but themselves. Some things are just to difficult to explain sometimes.

So, shouldn’t we encourage people to pursue their dreams, of course as long as it’s something realistic?  But that’s just the thing. There are people among us that doesn’t believe enough to know that there’s more than only what they see.  They’re just surprised that I don’t stay in my comfort zone and if I allow it, it feels like entering the court and replying on all the “why’s. And that’s exactly why I gave up explaining people everything I do in my life.

Once someone told me, I better write it like this: Someone remembered me (because I think this person assumed that I forgot) that I’ve failed in the past and that I could fail again.  The moments that I failed, I see them as learning points and some of those I even see them as moments when I had to ” gamble”  to survive. We cannot look in the future, so there’s for sure some uncertainty. But, if you dare to take a step in your life to make those changes you want, there’s a big chance that the uncertainty turns out to be the life you really wants filled with joy. And you’ll look back and think that it wasn’t as scary at all as you thought. Am I scared? No I’m not.

As for this comfort zone, just because one has this job that pays good, but even being unhappy, one stay? Is that money really more important than getting to where one really want to be? I think it’s fear that keep people trapped in their comfort zone, fear created by themselves.
And by the way, why do people call that their comfort zone? For me it’s not at all. I call it prison! And that’s just why I’m not afraid of the unknown. I want to be free, always! To live my life with a mission, to laugh, to love, to be loved, to have fun with my loved ones, at any place and anywhere. We live only once and that’s exactly why I think that one should really do what one wishes to do in ones life.

If you trust your heart and believe, you can make any changes. I survived every moment I took changes. And I am thankful for every moment that made my soul an experience richer. The people that really love me, never let me down. And that, I thank God for having those wonderful people in my life. I couldn’t wish better.

So, here I come again. Taking the leap and this time with everything I have: Faith that God will be here to help me and believe that the life that’s waiting for me is not a dream but real.

*** “Faith is taking the first step, even when you don’t see the staircase”. ***

Martin Luther King

I dedicate this post to my little brother who just moved to one of those beautiful places in Spain. After many years of hard work, studying in many different directions searching for his passion, he finally got his degree for something he found out he always loved to do: cooking! I’m very proud of him.

Wake up and see the beautiful truth.

Don't see only what you're wishing for
Imagination is healthy and good for our minds because it makes us strong and gives us the ability to create something nice out of our lives. Of course, as long as we don`t get lost into our ideas and thoughts we have and start believing we could influence the reality with our imaginations. An example of a good and powerful imagination is when you remember a happy moment with someone you love, you feel the happiness entering your body and empowering your mind and feeling your heart filling itself with joy and love.

Ones mind can be so creative that when one doesn’t notice, or I better say, when someone doesn`t want to wake up and face truth, they wander easy from reality into imaginations created out of their desires. And this might result into not being able to handle with the reality.

It’s impossible that only by imagining, to believe that you can achieve what you’ve been wishing for. Someone in a very unhappy marriage might keep saying many times “this time it’s for real that we will be happy again”, instead of taking real actions to accomplish what they truly desire which is to be happy together. They deluded themselves so many times that they are going to be happy for real, that in the meanwhile it became true to them, while it’s not! Because deep in their heart they know they are not happy, but that’s just the reason why they prefer to stay in Dreamland. 

And it’s a pity because they already took the first step toward their happiness. They just don`t know that yet. They used their imagination which is very good because that’s how we start with acting! Now what needs to be done is to dare and act and that’s when our wishes lead us to the next step called reality.

Thank you for reading this post I dedicated to a very special friend who really deserves to find true happiness.  

 ***” You cannot depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.”***

***Quote by Mark Twain.***

Live the life you really want.

Live out your dreams
If you fear the unknown. Don`t let it over win you, no matter how easy the words “I can`t  do this” or “this is too much for me” may sound. But should you choose for something else than choose for what you truly want just because you fear the unknown or because just you listen to what other people say? Prefer to follow your dream and take the road where the right path goes, `cause eventually there will always be changes. Look at the changes as lessons and not as problems and see those changes as a way to grow and to get things done in another or even better way.
There is always a weak spot that others notice and unfortunately, sometimes people might use that weak spot against you. Don`t allow them to do that! It`s your life so create it as you want it to be!
 
Lately I have dealt with moments in which I had the possibility to say easily “no” to some choices made in my life, but instead, I walked away from those situations blocking my way to them. I had people on my path discouraging my decisions. Luckily they are not in my family circle (my family is the most important thing in my life).That`s the moment a lot of questions popped up in my mind; Who am I doing it for? Who`s dream is it? Am I affecting others by living my own life? Am I dependent from others to achieve my dreams? It makes me realize that I`m the only one that can stop myself from living the real life I want. 
So, I opened my eyes and decided that I should stick on the road! And the outcome of my persistence gave me a big relieve and gave me so much power, that I now feel ready to take more steps towards the rest. 
I love my life already like it is and I am thankful for the people I have very close to me, that love me and care about me and wishes the very best for me. I wouldn`t dare to do anything that would affect them in a bad way. I`m very blessed to have them in my life and when I live out my dreams, I take them with me.  I think people should do everything they wish to do, as long as it doesn`t affect others in a bad way. And, it`s never too late to create the life you really want and to live out your dreams right now!

A “no worries” attitude.

no worries

What we do in the present shapes our future. Our past is the key to our present but also the key to our future. If you live in the present your life will be balanced and healthy.
Too many times we give our minds the chance to focus and worry about negativeness, instead of accepting that what has happened cannot be changed and focusing on the present. 
A life free of worries is about accepting life like it is and being optimistic. A life free of worries is about accepting all what happened in the past, living and enjoying every moment in the present. If you can have that “don`t worry too much” attitude your life can be more optimistic and happier.

Don`t worry

“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” Buddha

I am the architect of my own future.

The architect of my future

Believe in yourself. Follow your dreams and let them come true. No one else can built your future for you. If you handle like your actions are the compass for the right direction to your dreams and if you don`t let anything or anyone mislead you from going into the right direction, you can make it.

Make sure your actions points into the right direction. Don`t let anyone or anything make you believe you can`t make it. Don`t let ideas that could let you start doubting on your future plans, reach your mind. And above all, don`t let any negative influences get close to you heart. You certainly don`t want your beliefs to be influenced by negative ideas from others.

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I have to admit that in the past days I was disappointed in myself because of some negativity around me which made me forgot into which direction I was going. I always hear from people that I have a positive attitude and maybe they are right, but that word isn`t  just enough to always stay positive. “Focus” might be the word I lost track on in my mind. I got distracted and I forgot that I`m the one that decide about what happens to my future and no one else! That`s when I forgot to listen to my heart and started focusing on what others would say and think. But thanks to the wonderful people around me like my son, my friend, my brothers, the beautiful sunshine and all other positive factors around me I experienced in the past few days, I opened my eyes and decided not to let anything changing my heart anymore from pointing into the right direction.

Sometimes things happens around some of us which makes us loose our faith and makes us doubt. Those things, whatever they might be, sometimes appear to be powerful than words. This only happens only when we give them the chance to be, which is a pity ’cause that`s when we forget about our dreams and that`s when we stop building on our futures and loosing time with being sad and confused. But when words and thoughts have spiritual forces coming out of our heart, then they are much more powerful and they help us align our hearts back into the right direction. And then we move on, being the architect of our own future.

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Dreaming is believing

dreamers

A few days ago a friend of mine who`s facing a hard and sad period approached me and told me she fell in love with this beautiful song she was listening to and wanted me to listen to it. She was so excited and wanted to share it with someone and that someone happened to be me.
I didn`t even get the chance to tell her I was busy working on something important that had to be finished right away, `cause suddenly I felt to those earphones in my ears and I there I was, surrounded by this song called “I Made It Through The Rain” from Barry Manilow, from his 1980 album “Barry”. This song is about people having a hard time, going through it and afterwards when they have better times they look back: They made it through the “rain”. 
The words in this song are very beautiful and I know my friend is having difficult moments and she`s doing all her best to over-win all the negativity and reach her goal so she can look back and triumph. I know she likes to think and dream away a lot. It makes her feels good and she forgets all the bad things around her. 
I felt a little ashamed `cause my first thought was “I don`t have time for this now”! At first thought I didn`t wanted to be interrupted.  
She asked me if I liked the song. I answered: “It was as if you pulled me out of this world and pushed me in a world full of words and sounds! Words that were written by you! I felt your sadness and your suffer in this song.”
She left and I proceeded with my job, but apparently the words touched me more than I expected `cause I wasn`t as focused anymore as I was before. I opened my mailbox and started writing her a message. 
“Dear friend,  Let me tell you what I think and how I hope you`ll listen again at this song when you`re in better times in your life. I wrote those words out of the words that stayed in my mind to put a little more focus on the moment you`re enjoying you`re life again to the fullest. Because I know that you will make it! Your time of sadness will pass and joy and happiness will take control.”
 
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Keep your face always toward the sunshine, and shadows will fall behind you.”  Quote by Walt Whitman
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Tomorrow will be a better day.

tomorrow is a good day
Be grateful you learned something today that you won`t be doing tomorrow and be confident that this day won`t take control over your tomorrow.
You won`t get the time you already used back so make it count. Forget about all the bad things, don`t worry too much, be true to yourself and forgive so you can move on.
You`ll be able to move beyond the past and today`s pain will fade away, while tomorrow will be waiting for you to celebrate a beautiful new day with a stronger you! A new day will be waiting for you to live the life you want to live. A day filled with love and  happiness! The day that wasn`t beautiful doesn`t exist anymore! 

The Liebster Blog Award.

A few days ago AmbitionInTheCity.com nominated me for the Liebster Blog Award.

A big thank you! It`s a great honor! award
You have a great blog and I always enjoy reading your posts.
Thanks again, I really appreciate your nomination
and I wish you a lots of fun with blogging.

 

I looked up the origin of the Liebster Blog Award and found out that it`s an award for upcoming bloggers with 200 or less followers from which a blogger think they really deserve a reward for their blogging. It`s a blog to blog award,  a nice way to get recognized in the Blog world. The word “Liebster”means “Dearest” or “Favorite” in German.

Rules of the Liebster Award:

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1. Thank your Liebster Blog Award presenter on your blog and link back to their blog.
2. Answer the 11 questions from the nominator, list 11 random facts about yourself and create 11 questions for your nominees.
3. Present the Liebster Blog Award to 11 bloggers who you feel deserve to be noticed. These blogs must have 200 followers or less. Leave a comment on their blog to let them know they’ve been nominated by you.
4. Copy and paste the blog award on your blog. Post all the items listed in item 2 on your blog also.

My Responses to AmbitionInTheCity.com:

1. What would be the first thing you’d do if you won the lottery?
First I would give my people a little bit of it so they can treat themselves and I would buy a ticket a go to my roots for a while.
2. If you could live anywhere on earth (and take whomever you
wanted along)parawhere would it be?
Where my roots are: A small beautiful island in the Southern Caribbean, well known as Divers Paradise.
3. What do you admire most about yourself?
That despite my misfortunes in life I always manage to stay positive.
4. What would you most like to change about yourself?
I like myself how I am but if I really really needed to change something about myself just like that, I would get rid of those extra kilo`s at once! 🙂
5. What’s something that you’ve learned recently?
I recently followed a course with content of critical thinking and problem solving. It was very informative.
6. What’s your biggest pet peeve?
Do I really have to answer this one? 😉 I`m thinking just now about this colleague cracking his knuckels… I don`t like the sound at all.
7. What are your three most favorite things to do?
I love being with my family and friends and having fun with them. I love travelling and exploring new cultures and as third love cooking!
8. What inspires you to write?
The writing always made me happy and now that I started blogging I get more and more inspired by all those wonderful, educational and lovely stories in the blog world.
9. Best book you’ve read recently.
A few weeks ago I read “The monk who sold his Ferrari” from Sharma. It was very inspiring.
10. If you could be extremely good at any one thing, what would it be?
I could make a nice dinner for all my friends and family make sure they enjoy and have a lot of fun together.
11. What are you waiting for?
Indeed! I`m ready to go! 🙂

My 11 Random Facts:

1. Cooking gives me lot`s of energy, inspiration
and makes me happy, especially whenfoto (33)
I see the people around me enjoying
my dishes.
2. Never say “no” to a new dish without trying `cause how else would you know what you could have missed? 🙂
3. Purple and cyan are my favorite colors.
4. I am very thankful for my son and the joy he gives me.
5. I love roses, especially red and pink ones`cause they express love and happiness.
6. I love music and love dancing.
7. I`d really love to visit Australia one day.
8. I like being in the city but I miss the smell of sea.
9. Can`t wait to visit my sunny island coming summer.
10. I love reading books.
11. I know I should make more time for my hobby painting.

And now… here are the nominees:
1. http://powerofpies.wordpress.com/
2. http://lisettedefoe.wordpress.com/
3. http://kevollier.com/
4. http://sntbydudzi.wordpress.com/
5. http://bottledsmoke.wordpress.com/

Congratulations to all of you ! I always enjoy reading your blogs and look forward to read some more of your great posts. 

My 11 questions for the nominees:

1. What do love the most about blogging?
2. What`s your favorite food?
3. What makes you very happy?
4. What`s the best book you ever read?
5. Where is your favorite vacation destination and why?
6. What`s you favorite season of the year?
7. What advice would you recommend a new blogger?
8. What made you happy today?
9. Who is the most important person in your life?
10. Is there anything you love to collect?
11.Who is your favorite historical person and why.